SISTERS MIXER – 02/17 What have you done for/ about your deen?


Asalam aleikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh,

Alhamdulillah we had our first mixer of 2017 and it was lovely as usual. The topic was what have you done for and about your deen?

I’ll start with the different things the sisters are trying to do to better themselves in their deen.

Salah  – Not just performing salah but doing it at its given time and with absolute khushoo.

{But after them there followed a posterity who missed Prayers and followed after lusts soon, then, will they face destruction, except those who repent and believe, and work righteousness.} (Maryam: 59-60)

Commenting on the above verses (Ayat), Ibn ‘Abbas said,”Allah’s statement, “Who missed Prayers does not mean that they did not perform it at all but rather they did not perform it in its due time.”

Sa’id Ibn AI-Mussaiyyib, Imam of the Tabi’een (may Allah be pleased with him) said, “It is he who postpones the Dhuhr (Early Afternoon Prayer) until the time of Asr Prayer (Late Afternoon Prayer) and so are Maghrib (Sunset Prayer) until’ /sha’ (Evening Prayer), /sha until Fajr (Dawn Prayer) and Fajr until the sun rises. If someone dies persisting in such habits and does not repent to Allah, Allah promises to make him face Ghayy (destruction). But Ghayy may also be the name of a valley in the Hell whose bottom is so deep and tastes so bitter.

Sunnah prayers – This was a common answer and below are the different sunnah prayers that were mentioned.

  • Al Sunnan Al Rawatib (Sunnah Prayers associated with Fardh Prayers)

Prophet (May peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Allaah will build a house in Heaven for whoever is diligent in observing 12 Sunnah Rak’aat (as follows): 4 Rak’aat before and 2 after the Dhuhr (Midday) Prayer, 2 after the Maghrib (Sunset Prayer), 2 after the ‘Ishaa’ (Evening) Prayer and 2 before the Fajr (Dawn) Prayer.” Hadith sahih narrated by at-Tirmidhi No. 379 and by others. Hadith No. 6183 in Sahih al-Jaami’.

  • Tahajjud/ Qiyam layl

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The best prayer after the obligatory prayer is prayer at night.” Narrated by Muslim, 1163.

And he said: “You should pray qiyaam al-layl, for it is the custom of the righteous who came before you and it brings you closer to your Lord, and expiates sins and prevents misdeeds.”

Al-Tirmidhi (1984) narrated that ‘Ali said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “In Paradise there are apartments the outside of which can be seen from the inside and the inside of which can be seen from the outside.” A Bedouin stood up and said: “Who are they for, O Messenger of Allaah?” He said: “They are for those who speak good words, feed others, fast regularly and pray to Allaah at night when people are sleeping.” Classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.

Al-Haakim narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Jibreel came to me and said: ‘O Muhammad, live as long as you want, for you will die. Love whomever you want, for you will leave him. Do whatever you want for you will be requited for it. Remember that the believer’s honour is his praying at night, and his pride is his being independent of people.” Classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 73.

  • Duha

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen defined it as being from a quarter of an hour after the sun has risen until ten minutes before Zuhr prayer.  – Al-Sharh al-Mumti’, 4/122

It is better to pray it after the sun’s heat has become intense, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “It is preferable to offer Duha prayer when the sun’s heat has become so intense that even the young of the camels feel it.

Muslim (719) narrated that Mu‘aadhah (may Allah have mercy on her) asked ‘Aa’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her): How many (rak’ahs) did the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) pray in Duha? She said: Four rak‘ahs, and however many more he wanted.

  • Witr

Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah has prescribed for you a prayer (by which He may increase your reward), which is Witr; Allaah has enjoined it for you during the time between ‘Isha’ prayer until dawn begins.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 425; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.

Hijab – This is an obligation but it is a big test SubhanAllah. For some of the sisters, looking at the world we are in today, wearing your deen is a big deal so this was a big accomplishment Ma Sha Allah.

“And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer palms of hands or one eye or dress like veil, gloves, headcover, apron), and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of feminine sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allaah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful”

[al-Noor 24:31]

Sadaqat – This was also an answer that kept coming up Ma Sha Allah. Sadaqat doesn’t have to be much, it can be whatever you are comfortable with so no excuses really and as women we are told to give a lot as one of the remedies for jahannam. (You can read it in my last blog post here.

“O you who believe! Spend of that with which We have provided for you, before a Day comes when there will be no bargaining, nor friendship, nor intercession. And it is the disbelievers who are the Zaalimoon (wrongdoers)”
[al-Baqarah 2:254] 

“The likeness of those who spend their wealth in the way of Allaah, is as the likeness of a grain (of corn); it grows seven ears, and each ear has a hundred grains. Allaah gives manifold increase to whom He wills. And Allaah is All-Sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All-Knower.

262. Those who spend their wealth in the Cause of Allaah, and do not follow up their gifts with reminders of their generosity or with injury, their reward is with their Lord. On them shall be no fear, nor shall they grieve”

[al-Baqarah 2:261-262] 

“O you who believe! Spend of the good things which you have (legally) earned, and of that which We have produced from the earth for you, and do not aim at that which is bad to spend from it, (though) you would not accept it save if you close your eyes and tolerate therein. And know that Allaah is Rich (Free of all needs), and Worthy of all praise” [al-Baqarah 2:267] 

“Believe in Allaah and His Messenger (Muhammad), and spend of that whereof He has made you trustees. And such of you as believe and spend (in Allaah’s way), theirs will be a great reward” [al-Hadeed 57:7]

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever gives charity equal to a date from good (halal) earnings – for Allaah does not accept anything but that which is good – Allaah will take it in His right hand and tend it for the one who gave it as any one of you tends his foal, until it becomes like a mountain.” – Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1344; Muslim, 1014.

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There is no day on which the people get up but two angels come down and one of them says, ‘O Allaah, give in compensation to the one who spends (in charity),’ and the other says, ‘O Allaah, destroy the one who withholds.’ – Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1374; Muslim, 1010.

It was narrated that Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) went out – on Eid al-Fitr or Eid al-Adha – to the prayer place, and when he had finished (the prayer) he preached to the people and enjoined them to give charity. He said, “O people, give in charity!” Then he went over to the women and said, “O women, give in charity for I have seen that you are the majority of the people of Hell.” When he went home, Zaynab the wife of Ibn Mas’ood came seeking permission to see him. It was said, “O Messenger of Allaah, here is Zaynab.” He said, “Which Zaynab?” It was said, “The wife of Ibn Mas’ood.” He said, “Yes, let her in.” So they let her in and she said, “O Prophet of Allaah, today you enjoined charity, and I have some jewellery which I wanted to give in charity, but Ibn Mas’ood claims that he and his child have more right to receive it in charity.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Give it in charity to Ibn Mas’ood, for your husband and your child have the most right that you should give it to them in charity.” – Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1393; Muslim, 80.

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah said: ‘Spend, O son of Adam, and I shall spend on you.’ – Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5073; Muslim, 993.

  • This is not only helpful for the dunya but it can also be a source of barakah when you are dead. (Sadaqat Jariah)

Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When a man dies, his good deeds come to an end except three: ongoing charity, beneficial knowledge and a righteous son who will pray for him.” Narrated by Muslim, 3084.

Seeking and giving knowledge – Attending SISTERS MIXER and several classes / religious gatherings both physically and online, reading books and engaging in discussions.

Supporting fellow muslims – This includes helping someone in need of anything be it fianancial help or even just directions. Also supporting muslim bussinesses. Why buy off someone else when you can see your fellow muslim is right there with the same quality product? Just think of it as helping the ummah. You buy from him and in turn he’ll afford to pay zakat which will then help someone else and so on.

Sacrifice – Different people sacrificed different things for the sake and pleasure of Allah; Friends, relationships, habits and many other worldly pleasures that are of no benefit to the life in the hereafter.

Giving good advice – It may seem like something trivial but being entrusted by someone to give them advice is an amaana so you have to give them the best advice Islamically.

Being more forgiving – We constantly sin and repent in hope that Allah will forgive us so why not let go of others’ wrongs to you?

Ibn Hibbaan (may Allah have mercy on him) said in Rawdat al-‘Uqala’ wa Nuzhat al-Fudala’ (1/183): What is required of the wise man if his brother apologises to him for a previous offence or shortcoming is to accept his apology and regard him as being like one who did not commit any error, because if someone offers his excuses to him and he does not accept that, I fear that he will not come to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) at the Cistern [in the Hereafter].

Reading, learning and practicing the Quran and hadith – This didn’t stop at that. There was also teaching others the Quran ie facilitating classes etc

“(This is) a Book (the Qur’aan) which We have sent down to you, full of blessings, that they may ponder over its Verses, and that men of understanding may remember” – [Saad 38:29] 

“Verily, this Qur’aan guides to that which is most just and right” – [al-Isra’ 17:90] 

“Say: It is for those who believe, a guide and a healing” – [Fussilat 41:44]

And our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Read the Qur’aan, for it will come as an intercessor for its companions.” And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The Qur’aan will be brought on the Day of Resurrection along with its people who used to act upon it, preceded by Surat al-Baqarah and Aal ‘Imraan, like two clouds or two flocks of birds, spreading their wings, pleading on behalf of their companions (i.e., those who used to read them).”

Raising Muslim children

Being in environments and surrounding oneself with people who remind you of Deen and Allah.

Being outstanding in all that we do – Being a representative of Islam, It is our responsibility to portray the deen in the best manner and we are the examples people take.

Motivation to do better in deen. 

  1. Love and fear of Allah so seeking to earn His pleasure.
  2. Striving for Jannatul Firdaus and seekinng refuge from jahannam.
  3. Happiness within yourself and those around you.
  4. Appreciating all that Allah does for you
  5. Loss of a loved one was a wake up call.

Moving ahead

Many of us seemed to have done quite a bit to better ourselves but not enough for the community so we came up with simple ways that we could contribute.

Ofcourse in doing whatever you do, you have to keep your intentions pure. Do not seek recognition or praise lest your good deed goes to waste.Do it solely for the sake of Allah. You’ll find your reward in the akhira.

  • Show up early for Jummah and help set up.
  • Visit the sick – With this we are planning a hospital visit on 25th Feb 2017 In Sha Allah.
  • Give to someone or to a mosque whatever little but consistently
  • Get involved in mosque activities
  • Sharing knowledge; post or share a reminder or something motivational every now and again. you never know who needs it.

SubhanAllah that is a long post. I’ll try my best to do this after every mixer so that even those who haven’t managed to amke it can still benefit. May Allah make all easy fro us. May He grant us understanding and love for Him. May He take us when He is most pleased with us and make us amongst those who will enter the besy of Jannah without judgement.


2 Comments Add yours

  1. SOPHIA says:

    A salam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. Thank you sister Mariam for the initiative. Youve been so dedicated to sharing useful information with us. I thank all the other sisters who have dedicated their time and other resources towards the success of these sister mixers. May Allah (SWT) reward you abundantly.

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